The notion of systemic connection is not limited to NLP and is one that appears regularly within psychology, within NLP we take it a step further and state that for change to be lasting and effective it needs to be ecologically sound.
What this means is that any change a client wants must fit in to the rest of their life and must be a positive influence for it to be long lasting.
If someone wants to be more confident and believes that confidence will get them a better all round life then there is a positive intention to gaining confidence, however if they also believe that a greater sense of confidence will give them greater responsibility at work (which they don’t want) then the change is not ecologically sound.
When discussing change with a client it is important to understand and confirm that what they want fits in with the wider picture of their life. How does it fit with family, friends, work and career? What is the wider impact within yourself and out in the world?
Ensuring that what a client wants is ecologically sound can make the difference between success and failure in helping your client achieve their goals.