We often feel that we cannot face a challenge or complete a goal in our life because we think that we are missing some important skill or quality, some resource that we need.
The assumption of NLP is that no matter what you need NOW you already have that skill/quality/ability/emotion but you are have compartmentalised it into a particular context and don’t realise that the resource is available to you in all parts of your life.
A resource is simply something that you do well within a particular situation. For example, you may be willing to set aside time for a co-worker when it is convenient for them (showing flexibility), but be stubborn about what to see at the cinema (being inflexible). You have the resource, you just apply it in a different situation or context.
Clients will often come to us claiming that they are stuck, or somehow ‘missing’ the capability to overcome a particular obstacle. What they really mean is that they haven’t identified the right resource to use in this situation and they need your help to take a resource and use it within the new context.
What do you do well?
Write a list of things that you are ‘excellent’ at. Are you good with people or technology, can you cook well, or teach others. What is the underlying resource? Patience, Understanding, Focus etc.
What do other people think?
Sometimes it is difficult for us to be honest with ourselves, we are often taught not to boast and just keep our head down. This time list what other people say about you, think about the skill and how this can be used in a different context.